Angstrom wrote:while it's true to say we have more complex social structures and that the rules are more complex .. I wouldnt say this negates the ancient primitive drives. Men still find 'child bearing hips' , youth and breasts as sexually atractive - whether they want to procreate or not.
women still find alpha males of their social order attractive. My girlfriend is pretty intelligent but she first was attracted to me by seeing me on stage. She gets more possesive when other women get interested. Our value as males still lies in looking like a good catch and that we will be able to provide both good healthy sperm and support. Whether the woman doing the choosing wants kids or not, these are often still the subliminally deciding factors.
They are the anthropological foundations of our species, we can bury them or decorate them - but they still support our complex lives.
I did the alpha male thing for a while... got me lots of pussy, but didn't feel real enough to me. I tired myself, acting alert and cocky all the time. Plus I wouldn't know if the chicks would digg my other sides too. I guess I'm trying to say: confidence works, but don't overdo it.
Anyway, take comfort in knowing that in 30 years she'll be ugly, like all older women, and you'll be a charming, experienced guy, with a mid-life crisis, shagging 20 year old golddiggers!
Also, women come and go, porn is forever. So get yourself some ultra lube, download some Jenna Jameson and get busy!