I hate to be the one to say it, and maybe it's already been said in this thread (I couldn't bring myself to read every page), but if you think it's bad here, go try and find someone intelligent on a myspace forum...you'll probably find a few, but they are a minority at best, and there are thousands of trolls online there, whole communities of trolls just waiting for someone new to come along for a flamefest. Personally, I like the tech talk here in these forums, and with any forum, you can usually tell if a thread is even worth reading by just looking at who started the topic and what the topic of a thread is.
I would say that the situation here is actually pretty good, in comparison to myspace - try it out if you don't believe me. Between spam, the forums that are entirely populated by trolls (pick any music forum), and pretty much being totally ignored by administration, I would say that everyone here has it pretty good and if you don't like someone, just don't respond.
I lurk here a lot, I read what I think is interesting, download patches that sound like they're worth a shot, and follow links posted by people who I see more and more have something to offer, and it adds up to a good experience. I've seen bullshit posting by a couple of people, and don't interact with them, and I see other people encouraging troll behavior, and stay away from them, too, just to not attract trolls to myself. That and I either don't talk about stuff I don't know about, or admit I'm not totally sure about what I'm talking about before anyone else has the chance to point it out, and just doing those things would probably save a lot of people whatever grief they feel they are receiving.
This is all just one persons opinion, though - take it for what it's worth, but if you think it's tough here, you should check into the myspace forums for a minute; you'll be back, quick-like, promise.