shag her...
she falls asleep.....
i put on headphones and jam away....
how do you deal with girlfriend and music
no prevailing genre of music:
http://alonetone.com/glu
http://alonetone.com/glu
I may have solved this issue partly using our good buddy Live.
She is a singer - a fact which has up to now NOT excluded her from the usual female need to prevent you from doing what you enjoy by forcing you to watch ridiculous reality TV shows. But now I have taught her how to use karaoke backing tracks, drag them into live and record herself singing mulitiple takes in session view
She seems to be really enjoying it
the only downside is when she is recording I have to give her my FW410 and use her Emagic EMI2/6 which used to be mine but I replaced due to shockingly bad latency etc
of course she doesnt do it as much as I want to do stuff so i still get pestered to watch the stupid reality TV shows sometimes
She is a singer - a fact which has up to now NOT excluded her from the usual female need to prevent you from doing what you enjoy by forcing you to watch ridiculous reality TV shows. But now I have taught her how to use karaoke backing tracks, drag them into live and record herself singing mulitiple takes in session view
She seems to be really enjoying it
the only downside is when she is recording I have to give her my FW410 and use her Emagic EMI2/6 which used to be mine but I replaced due to shockingly bad latency etc
of course she doesnt do it as much as I want to do stuff so i still get pestered to watch the stupid reality TV shows sometimes
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northernlight
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schedule your time. me and my girlfriend had arguments all the time. then we setup a schedule and since then it's mostly good times.
we keep it simple:
Me working on music: Monday, Wedensday, Friday, Saturday Morning
Doing whatever my girlfriend wants to do: Tuesday, Thursday, Saturay afternoon and sunday
we are doing it this way since 2 years and i think it works great.
edit: and lure her into music production one step after another also helps. she now wants me to records her playing piano
we keep it simple:
Me working on music: Monday, Wedensday, Friday, Saturday Morning
Doing whatever my girlfriend wants to do: Tuesday, Thursday, Saturay afternoon and sunday
we are doing it this way since 2 years and i think it works great.
edit: and lure her into music production one step after another also helps. she now wants me to records her playing piano
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luv2spin31
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My two favorite quotes on this issue
There are always exceptions, as this thread shows, but in my last two relationships they hold true:
"Women inspire us to create masterpieces and then prevent us from carrying them out." (some famous European artist, can't be bothered to look up the reference)
"Women are an infinite pit of need." (friend of mine)
Obviously these are stereotypes, YMMV and all that. But it doesn't seem to be just my problem.
Even in my tiny circle of musician friends, at least one guy I thought could be a great producer was dragged down out of music by his wife...
r.
"Women inspire us to create masterpieces and then prevent us from carrying them out." (some famous European artist, can't be bothered to look up the reference)
"Women are an infinite pit of need." (friend of mine)
Obviously these are stereotypes, YMMV and all that. But it doesn't seem to be just my problem.
Even in my tiny circle of musician friends, at least one guy I thought could be a great producer was dragged down out of music by his wife...
r.
Re: My two favorite quotes on this issue
rasputin wrote: "Women inspire us to create masterpieces and then prevent us from carrying them out." (some famous European artist, can't be bothered to look up the reference)
Oscar Wilde!
Now that is a quote worth putting on a sig...
no prevailing genre of music:
http://alonetone.com/glu
http://alonetone.com/glu
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massiveheadpain
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The musicians wife
Alright, for starters, I am the wife of the musician. So I understand the "girlfriend", because I was the girlfriend and am now the wife.
One thing real quick, all you douche bags telling her to "deal with it!" obviously have never had a lasting relationship, aren't in one at all, or are in a shitty one, so SHUT IT!
Me and my husband had alot of trouble at first, and still have a little from time to time, but one of the biggest things is compromising. Sit down and truly talk about it. Let her know how much you love it, but that you DO love her first and that's why you want to sit down and talk to her to figure out what will work. You both will have to give a little, neither of you is going to have it just the way you want it and until you face that, it will never work. One thing that helps is do the sweet little things you used to do (hopefully ) when you were first together. Buy her flowers, take care of dinner, any cute thing she likes, do little things that only you know makes her happy. Agree to do something she wants for a day, or half a day, then take the next day or half a day to focus on your music. THIS WAY, she cannot rightfully get mad at you, and if she does, she will have to deal with it. If she can't handle it then, you have a big problem. I realize how much music means to my husband but as long as I have the reasurrance that he loves me more and will still take the time of day with me, I'm perfectly happy. Because I want him to be happy and I know how much it means to him. Just don't be a spoiled brat about it and neglect your girl, if you do, your screwed. ( not in a good way, either )
And hey, whoever said "get her involved", that's a great idea IF it's possible. Sometimes, the girlfriend ( or wife ) just isn't going to have an interest in it and that's just how it is. And by all means, if she has any hobbies of her own, encourage her to pursue them. That will keep her busy while you are working on your music. And if you have some extra money ( very few of us I suppose, certainly not us ), let her go shopping if that's her thing.
Just don't give up, it takes time and persistance, but if you keep doing this, keep trying and truly showing her how hard you want her to be happy and how much you love her, she will start working with you. Hang in there!
One thing real quick, all you douche bags telling her to "deal with it!" obviously have never had a lasting relationship, aren't in one at all, or are in a shitty one, so SHUT IT!
Me and my husband had alot of trouble at first, and still have a little from time to time, but one of the biggest things is compromising. Sit down and truly talk about it. Let her know how much you love it, but that you DO love her first and that's why you want to sit down and talk to her to figure out what will work. You both will have to give a little, neither of you is going to have it just the way you want it and until you face that, it will never work. One thing that helps is do the sweet little things you used to do (hopefully ) when you were first together. Buy her flowers, take care of dinner, any cute thing she likes, do little things that only you know makes her happy. Agree to do something she wants for a day, or half a day, then take the next day or half a day to focus on your music. THIS WAY, she cannot rightfully get mad at you, and if she does, she will have to deal with it. If she can't handle it then, you have a big problem. I realize how much music means to my husband but as long as I have the reasurrance that he loves me more and will still take the time of day with me, I'm perfectly happy. Because I want him to be happy and I know how much it means to him. Just don't be a spoiled brat about it and neglect your girl, if you do, your screwed. ( not in a good way, either )
And hey, whoever said "get her involved", that's a great idea IF it's possible. Sometimes, the girlfriend ( or wife ) just isn't going to have an interest in it and that's just how it is. And by all means, if she has any hobbies of her own, encourage her to pursue them. That will keep her busy while you are working on your music. And if you have some extra money ( very few of us I suppose, certainly not us ), let her go shopping if that's her thing.
Just don't give up, it takes time and persistance, but if you keep doing this, keep trying and truly showing her how hard you want her to be happy and how much you love her, she will start working with you. Hang in there!
I could live without the special person I'm with at the moment but could not live without making music. Cause there are _other_ special persons out there, but for my inner life there is _nothing_ like making music. So for every passionate musician music comes 1st, then the girl. But only if you have to decide between her and the music. If not, she can be the number one...
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djadonis206
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Re: The musicians wife
I'm keep this South Park except a short - but I can't believe this is the first time I've used it in a thread an actual woman responded tomassiveheadpain wrote:Alright, for starters, I am the wife of the musician. So I understand the "girlfriend", because I was the girlfriend and am now the wife.
One thing real quick, all you douche bags telling her to "deal with it!" obviously have never had a lasting relationship, aren't in one at all, or are in a shitty one, so SHUT IT!
CARTMAN
Jeez, you're a little irritable, Kyle.
What's the matter? You got some sand
in your vagina?
KYLE
No, I don't have sand in my vagina!
I just think it's a little immature...
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djadonis206
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Re: The musicians wife
I'm on a roll nowdjadonis206 wrote:CARTMAN
Jeez, you're a little irritable, Kyle.
What's the matter? You got some sand
in your vagina?
KYLE
No, I don't have sand in my vagina!
I just think it's a little immature...
CARTMAN
Dude! You missed it, Kyle! It was so
awesome!
KYLE
Well! I hope it lived up to all the
hype! You must feel sooo much better
now!
CARTMAN
Kyle, we've gotta get that sand out
of your vagina. It's making you cranky.
Does it itch?
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djadonis206
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Re: The musicians wife
CARTMANdjadonis206 wrote:I'm on a roll nowdjadonis206 wrote:CARTMAN
Jeez, you're a little irritable, Kyle.
What's the matter? You got some sand
in your vagina?
KYLE
No, I don't have sand in my vagina!
I just think it's a little immature...
CARTMAN
Dude! You missed it, Kyle! It was so
awesome!
KYLE
Well! I hope it lived up to all the
hype! You must feel sooo much better
now!
CARTMAN
Kyle, we've gotta get that sand out
of your vagina. It's making you cranky.
Does it itch?
Don't mind Kyle, everyone, he's just
got a little sand in his vagina.
KYLE
THERE'S NO SAND IN MY VAGINA!!!