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You guys are no longer friends anyway. It will never be the same.


HAVE SEX WITH HER!!!! (your level of attraction to her does not factor into this situation.)

tell her your gay but in the closet so she can't tell anyone.

I apologize to you if I don't seem real eager to jump into a forced awkward intimate situation that people like to call dating. I don't like the feeling. You're sitting there, you're wondering do I have food on my face, am I eating, am I talking too much, are you talking enough, am I interested, I'm not really interested, should I play like I'm interested but I'm not that interested but I think you might be interested but do I want to be interested but now you're not interested? So all of the sudden I'm getting, I'm starting to get interested... And when am I supposed to kiss you? Do I have to wait for the door cause then it's awkward, it's like well goodnight. Do you do like that ass-out hug? Where you like, you hug each other like this and your ass sticks out cause you're trying not to get too close or do I just go right in and kiss you on the lips or don't kiss you at all? It's very difficult trying to read the situation. And all the while I'm just really wondering are we gonna get hopped up enough to make some bad decisions? Perhaps play a little game called "just the tip, just for a second, just to see how it feels." Or, "Ouch, ouch you're on my hair."

Sleep with her sister.

That'll get you off the hook.

Machinesworking wrote:Hanging with single straight girls as a single straight guy, looks healthy and "mature" on paper but IRL it's always messy at some point.

Not if you set boundaries after you know there is no attraction. Having platonic lady friends is actually the easiest way to meet more women. Social proof is powerful

i just have 2 things to say that i have learned through reading these post,

1. i am never asking you guys for advice.

and 2. you are are some of the funniest people ever i couldent stop laughing the whole time from one reply to the other.

Werd, Brian W. Green. Never asking for advice and funny shit, man.

Why would she buy the whole "I'm a douche" routine? She already knows you.

Single guys + single girls can't ever be real friends. Too many emos.

And if you are able to have lots of the single ladies as friends, what does the significant one(s) think of all your single lady "friends"?

just hit it, you might like it. weird things happen when you do things to girls you arent attracted too. trust me. Unless she is totally ugly and wretched obviously.

Tell her your hobby is playing the electronic keyboard. Then introduce her to a guitar player.

I wish I could ask my friend out

LOL!! Some of that advice can get me killed! Hilarious stuff but some things made sense.

Someone said the friendship is already finished and is probably right coz now it will be weird.

Heres the thing, i am fond of her, i can confide in her and we can hnag out BUT not for long!!! Coz we are SO different at so many levels that at some point it just becomes irritating for me. I get easily annoyed.
Also, and now i understand this a lot better. I have always felt a certain hostility from her. Especially regarding my DJing, music production etc. She wishes i would be FULL time into my job and not the music. If i have a gig and it gets cancelled, she laughs. If a piece of gear breaks she laughs and now it makes sense.
She has always been angry on the inside that wont give her 100% and that music means so much to me that it leaves no emptiness in my life.
How i can see that me never making a move has actually hurt her ego.

Dude, i am not attracted to her at all and I hate saying that and maybe it is really mean but everyone has a certain type/preference.

Luckily i'm off on Fridays so i did not have to go to work.
Last i heard from her last night was that she would be really hurt if things got weird between us.
How can they not ?

Do u REALLY want me to keep u all posted about the progress ?

btw, Thanks for the replies, advice, comic relief!!!
Cheers guys!

Brian W. Green wrote:i just have 2 things to say that i have learned through reading these post,

1. i am never asking you guys for advice.

and 2. you are are some of the funniest people ever i couldent stop laughing the whole time from one reply to the other.

Lol, my thought exactly. Some funny scenarios there.

If she is in fact your friend then be honest about how you feel. How you deliver this message is of course important. Subtlety is the key.

Giver her some indications that you may, one day, want a relationship with her - then start borrowing money off her.

Truth always stands.
Speak about your real feelings.
If she walks away, and you're no friend anymore
You could reconsider and start dating her.

- Best
- Pasha