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funken wrote:

footsy wrote:NOOOOoooooooooo not this again.

Teach kids how to deal with bullying, not telling them not to bully. My 2 cents......

Well that's the idea, what do you think it is, a school for bullies?

knotkranky wrote:The "what is bullying" bit. It reads very personal and basically a general frustration in life. The person doesn't know it but they're manifesting zero confidence and reaffirming fears from behind the very place. Kind of a "world coming at me" "no choices" experience they're living. This is a bigger problem than the bully. I'm not excluding the bullies, but that soul probably needs better pals n family.

What is an Attention Whore?

An individual that routinely solicits attention through inappropriate tactics and provocation.

funken wrote:What does this have to do with the topic?

funken wrote:

knotkranky wrote:The "what is bullying" bit. It reads very personal and basically a general frustration in life. The person doesn't know it but they're manifesting zero confidence and reaffirming fears from behind the very place. Kind of a "world coming at me" "no choices" experience they're living. This is a bigger problem than the bully. I'm not excluding the bullies, but that soul probably needs better pals n family.

Well let's see, it was written by Tim Field. He died in 2006. The Guardian wrote:

Obituary
Tim Field



Will Messenger
The Guardian, Saturday 21 January 2006

A victim of bullying, he became a world authority on the subject

Tim Field, who has died aged 53 from cancer, was a world authority on bullying and psychiatric injury, and author of the best-selling Bully in Sight (1997). His vision was for a bully-free world, and he campaigned in schools, further and higher education, and the workplace to achieve this.

In 1994, after nearly 20 years working in computing, he had himself been a victim of workplace bullying and suffered a breakdown. After recovering, he became passionate about understanding and dealing with the problem.

He set up the UK National Workplace Bullying Advice Line in 1996, and then an information website, Success Unlimited (later Bully Online), which was widely used. He formed a publishing house from which he released Bully in Sight. One review said: "Thank you for writing Bully in Sight. It's like a torch in the darkness." Tens of thousands of copies were sold in 30 countries. In 1998 Field published David Kinchin's Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: the Invisible Injury. Then, in 2001 he co-authored and published (with Neil Marr), Bullycide: Death at Playtime, an exposé of child suicide caused by bullying.

He lectured all over the world. His clients included individuals as well as institutions such as the BBC, trade unions, police forces and local authorities. He worked personally on more than 5,000 bullying cases, highlighting the lack of understanding for victims. He revealed patterns showing how trade unions often failed to deal effectively with the problem among their members.

Field believed that bullying was the single most important social issue of today, and that its study provided an opportunity to understand the behaviours which underlie almost all conflict and violence. His work inspired and influenced international anti-bullying organisations, while his personal energy, commitment and knowledge restored sanity and saved lives.

Born in Eastbourne, he graduated from Staffordshire University (then North Staffordshire Polytechnic) in 1975 with a first class honours degree in computer science. He specialised in designing and delivering training programmes before his own encounter with bullying. He received honorary doctorates for his initiatives to stamp out bullying.

Field's interests were wide ranging. He was an accomplished pianist, karaoke singer and science fiction enthusiast. He was also always keen to develop his knowledge of the spiritual aspects of life.

He married Susan, whom he had met at university. She survives him, with their two children, Michael, 16, and Fiona, 12.

Tim Field, anti-bullying campaigner, born April 24 1952; died January 15 2006
http://www.guardian.co.uk/news/2006/jan ... ainsection

stringtapper wrote:

knotkranky wrote:The "what is bullying" bit. It reads very personal and basically a general frustration in life. The person doesn't know it but they're manifesting zero confidence and reaffirming fears from behind the very place. Kind of a "world coming at me" "no choices" experience they're living. This is a bigger problem than the bully. I'm not excluding the bullies, but that soul probably needs better pals n family.

Poor guy. I bet he's sitting at home all alone just updating his website right now…

footsy wrote:NOOOOoooooooooo not this again.

Teach kids how to deal with bullying, not telling them not to bully. My 2 cents......