Machinesworking wrote:knotkranky wrote:Pitch Black wrote:I love you
I love you to dude.
There are a lot of points to be made, but the biggest is that the "receiver" (of whatever dialogue) is most responsible for their perception of it. b0unce outs many dudes on that. Most take the bait and react, others glide on it and respond or go back to their beats without a skip. b0unce and his ilk enjoy reactors. Especially if the reactor loses their cool. But that ain't on b and the other aggressors.
The Individual is responsible for everything that the individual feels and does no matter what. 100%
Forget about how people are supposed to be. Just let them be it and you be what you want to be and try not to be so insecure as to be hurt or at least marginalized. Forget it, move on. Just jump forward a couple years in development as person who's in control no matter what others say/do.
This is the key, be in control of your own self, and allow others to be who they are. It's not a contest. We humans won a long time ago.
The biggest enablers of this hostility are the ones who react and can't move out of their own way. Don't ask for respect, just exemplify.
There is no better way to disarm aggressors. Gandhi had it right.
Ya know, it takes a MUCH bigger set of balls to say I love you than fuck you. I would say Pitch Black has bigger balls than b0unce.
OK then you go on to pass value judgments and put people into categories of who said what and who is bigger better faster etc.
Point is nebula answers a question on Live I was trumped on, he's the man, he whines, I call him on it. Nobody gets a free ride, we are all responsible for the here and now. You don't get any cookies for "I love you" posts, or "can't we just all get along?" posts with me, you get my respect when you earn it, not when you tell me what kind of person you are......
Basically hippies are NOT by their very "positive energy" rhetoric better people than punk rockers. it's all about the individual and what they say and do, the rest is the sales pitch.
If observing people and having an opinion is passing judgement, then yes. If observing them in anger or happy is categorizing, then yes.
I feel I don't pass judgement in the negative sense though, unless I get weak myself, which I admit is all too often.
I agree with you Mw, no freebies here either. Two extreme types of people; Some start you off with a 1,000 points and they knock off points as they go with others = (Insta-buddies) And some start you off with 0 points and you build from there = (Leave me alone until). Me? 'll give you 250 or maybe 500 if you sign my checks and then we go from there. For some, points are never added back if taken away and others fill it back up at a drop of a hat.
Point is, Neb gives you a lot of points right up front. The problem with that is it leads to expectations for some and I don't know Neb well enough to know if his 700 points are unconditional.
Expectations is a real killer too. Best to avoid them concerning others.
My non cyber friends know me as someone who is extremely unconditional. Though that's unnerving to some people (girlfriends) that want to scrap and like a bit abuse. I don't sweat people much or my close friends at all.
b0unce and I used to beat the crap out of each other. I was on his top hit list for a minute and he dogged me everywhere I went. Now, we're cool. I never hated the dude. Ever. Just like you Mw, I heard his message through all the fodder and that's all I cared about. His abuse never felt like that to me. Actually I was a bit mesmerized by his artistry with it, lol. I like him cuz he's real good at finding the jugular. The dude is teaching quite a few about tolerance and reverse anger management, lol.
Neb is totally cool. There isn't anything about him that should cause any distress. If he's pushing peoples buttons, he's probably exposing things that are unflattering about ourselves.